Another “SEX”Y Post: Travelin’ Down Anal Avenue

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SODOMY: –noun 1. anal or oral copulation with a member of the opposite sex.  2. copulation with a member of the same sex.

Many governments have laws against sodomy. Soooo, I guess that means that virtually every adult on this planet should have a criminal record. Its silly really, unless you’re into some sick, twisted shit like sex with children, bestiality, masochism, defication or anything like that.  Sex with your partner, no matter what orifices of the body you consent to having it in, is your business. Now that that’s out of the way…

My girl VI, author of the candydiaries, did a post recently listing the reasons why she won’t have anal sex.  Thereafter, a few of her readers, including myself, discussed the pros and cons a bit further in the comment section.  I know many women aren’t into this sort of thing, as it may seem too painful to fathom getting any pleasure from it. But as I told VI, rest assured that once you’ve made that decision to try, you’d be amazed at how much you pleasure you do receive.  Here’s a few tips to get started:

1. First, decide if its really something you wanna try. Couples are always trying to find ways to spice their relationships but if you just KNOW that this is not what you’re into, don’t do it. If you have toyed with the idea, consider this a formal dare! But understand that you must mentally be ready;  as with first-time vaginal sex, its going to be uncomfortable.

2. RELAX: relax yourself. Plan on having a good experience. Don’t concentrate on the ‘what ifs’.  This experience should be with a partner you know well and you trust wholeheartedly. Because it will be uncomfortable the first time, he should respect your limitations. He’s gonna enjoy himself no matter what. The mutual goal should be to ensure you enjoy yourself too.

3. For your first time, some people may suggest anal beads or butt plugs. I’m not that invested in this shit. Its SEX! so use your body. I would recommend you on all fours (doggy-style). This is a good time for your partner to give you a nice rub down with some body oil. Have him pay close attention to your lower back, and bottom. This is a great relaxation method and lube job, prepping you for the throw-down! You may want to keep yourself sexually aroused by touching yourself. Its important to keep the mood in your mind! After all, 75% of this is mental anyway.

4. Allow him to gently insert a finger, or if you think you’re ready, the tip of his penis. Gentleness is KEY.  Your tolerance level should set the pace.  If you can take it, allow him to give you a little more, again, gently! Nothing is worse than anal tears!! Stay lubed and demand delicacy. This is your body.  Tension must exit the building from this point forward. You should be totally relaxed while he enters you, mentally and physically.

5. Once you’ve developed a rhythmic motion, it will get easier and easier to handle. Remember to keep your goal at the forefront of your mind: pleasure. So while you may be experiencing some level of discomfort, do all you can (I recommend masturbation throughout the experience) to help keep your arousal heightened.

You wont find a rainbow with the pot of gold waiting for you at the end of this experience. In fact, you may not want to do it again for awhile.  But the more you try this and other new experiences with your partner, the more you will begin to notice that sometimes, somethings just hurt so damn good!

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