Brenda’s Gotta Baby

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I know, I know, its been a minute but bear with me. School and my slowly evolving addiction to Facebook has been keeping my attention. Though ‘The World’ has been a good place to air my rants, the interaction with commenters is what I like best, and unfortunately, I dont get much here. I have notice the pick up in visits, thanks in large part to the picture of the “asses for bathroom sinks” pics; LMAO, it’s a hot pic, indeed! But alas, little to no exchange in thoughts forced me to spend time among the social networks, Facebook being my preference (I strongly urge you to look me up on there!).

Well, this post is brought to you today by the lovely people in Chicago’s Paul Robeson High School. If you havent heard by now, 115 of the 800 students are with child. Thats right, one hundred and fifteen! Now you know me, I’ll ride for single moms ALL DAY, but this bullshit right here??? UNCALLED FOR. I cannot and will not uphold bullshit.  And I say this as a single, former teen mom myself.

How can you talk?, you may ask yourself.  Well, given the fact that I’ve been there, done that, I think I have the PERFECT expert opinion on this situation. Nothing, I repeat NOTHING is cute about that many young girls running around a high school with baby bumps and baby shower gift registries.  I’ve seen this story featured on several other websites, and what catches my attention is the deflection of responsibility when it comes to these children. Its NOT the administration’s responsibility to make sure these kids have access to sexual education. Its NOT a city or state responsibility, though I am predicting that the state will definitely be an intricate part of the children’s lives, once born. The responsibility lies squarely on the shoulders of the parents and their children. What a vicious cycle of neglect we create when we are too busy to raise our children. That was my mother’s problem. She too a single mom after a divorce, worked 2 jobs for as long as I can remember, trading sexual education for her children for financial security. Was she a horrible mother? ABSOLUTELY NOT! Was a responsible one? No.  But this is exactly why these young ladies need to comprehend what challenges face them ahead. My mother would do anything for me and my two brothers. And during our childhood, she felt she was doing what she had to do.  The shit aint easy; trying to be everything to everybody. Sacrifices were made. Sex education for us was one of those sacrifices, resulting in her 15-year-old daughter getting pregnant.

Now,  I’m also accountable. Though most scientists will tell you that a child’s brain is not fully developed in their teens/early twenties, I’m here to tell you, my brain was developed enough to cock em, spread em, hold em and fold em! I will not hide behind my age at the time as a means to say that I didn’t know any better. I knew exactly what I was doing.  And I knew it was wrong.  Without my mother having tell me, I knew how babies were made. I just didn’t care.

Back to the Chicago story, these young ladies need to count their blessings that a baby is the only thing they got out of the bed with. In this day and age, you would expect more caution, even if it’s not at the hands of the parents. The Rap-It-Up campaign, the Act Against AIDS, and many other initiatives were taken to get the education out there to these children about safe, responsible sex. Abstinence is great in theory but let’s be realistic. These kids know about protection and what it takes to not get knocked-up but, like me, they just dont care, which is harmless if its only one or two teens, but 115?? 

I propose a device, designed for insertion in the female at birth, preventing her from pro-creating until she is old enough to go the doctor to have it removed (hey-dont steal my idea without paying me first!).  Consented by the parents, of course, and if the parents are reasonable, they”ll sign for it as quickly as they would for a son’s circumcision. Once she is of age, like smoking or drinking, she would have to show ID to a GYNO to have it removed and be able to safely become pregnant. Not only is this morally responsible, its financially responsible.  I hear the nay-sayers right now: That will be giving government too much control. Well, while we wait for a better alternative to this mess, I say we get the ball rollin. Just cut my check!

(pic jacked from some pregnancy site. I dont know who this chick is nor do I claim to know if she is a single and/or teen mom)

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